And now Matt Lauer?

The other day I read that Matt Lauer, the co-host of the Today show, has joined the "Cheating Spouse Club" along with Tiger Woods, Jesse James and Tiki Barber (to name a few). Matt Lauer has released statements saying that there is no truth to the rumors. I don't know and I don't care if the rumors are true. The Lauer marriage is not my business nor do I want it to be. BUT the issue of infidelity has been prevalent in the news lately and as a married woman, I think it's worth talking about.

In my opinion, cheating is not the first sign of trouble in a relationship. I think it is an unfortunate consequence of the presence of unresolved issues between a couple. Perhaps it's a communication issue, a self esteem issue, a financial issue, an unfulfilled needs issue...who knows? What I do know is that adultery is a sin. Period. Point blank. And by the way, it doesn't matter if there is a so called "sex addiction" that needs to be treated, it's still a sin.

Maintaining a strong, healthy, happy marriage isn't easy. It takes two. So today, I offer up these two poems:

I Wonder...

copyright 2000

I wonder...

If I walked out the door at 8:00 in the morning and came back at midnight,

would you notice I was gone and question where I had been?

If I laid in bed all day,

would you fluff my pillow, pull back the covers and join me?

If I said, "I'm tired",

would you cook dinner, wash the dishes and rub my feet?

I wonder...

If I said, "I'm not happy",

would you try everything in your power to change that?

If I start to cry,

will you kiss away my tears?

I wonder...

If we didn't have a child,

would you still be here?

Would I still be here?

I wonder how something so good one minute

can fill so empty the next.

I wonder if you knew I was wondering about all this... about you... about us

would you even care?

Would you admit that you were wondering too?

Sometimes

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Sometimes you frustrate me so much

I wanna grab my keys, walk right out the door, get in the car and drive.

Drive... drive... drive. All day long.

Just so I don't have to see your face anymore.

Then I remember there's no gas in the car.

Sometimes I wanna tell you that you make me sick.

Yell at you... call you names...

LAZY... SELFISH...NERVE RACKING

Then I remember that the game is on

so you wouldn't hear me anyway.

Sometimes I want you to walk in the door, put your arms around me

tell me I am the best thing that ever happened to you...

Your sun... your moon... the air you breathe.

Then I remember

that's exactly what you did yesterday.